Wednesday, 16 May 2012

egocentric? huh!

life mind mapping.
i just love to find formulas which got something to do with myself; to improve myself. only me...haha..self-centered betul. owh ok..not just myself. others as well (cover balik) but since i have no control over the others, so it might only be me..ehe..


well, elements of life is a formula to have a well being life. but knowing the formula alone is not enough if you haven't practice them. that's why there is a saying which goes like "practice makes perfect" .

eh eh  why like this?? :p


ahaa..the right ones.hehe..

it's not OVER yet.





(taken from: selfgrowth.com. this entry a bit messy sebab copy & paste dengan kadar segera.malas nak edit-edit.hoho.apelah malas2 ni atieeee)

*** Article: What's Holding You Back from Starting Over? - By Diana Todd-Banks ***


Has life dropped a big ball and chain around your feet? Do you feel like you're sleep walking through life, unable to move frozen with some form of fear, fear about the future, fear about Starting Over and how to positively move forward?

Yes, it is an uncomfortable place to be, but the good news is, all that can be changed.


"Oh I'd love to do something new."

"I desperately want to change my life."

"I really want to write a book."

"I want to start a new career."

"I want to earn money again."

"I want to live life again."

"I desperately want to Start Over."

Do you know what is holding YOU back? Is it doubt, fear, worry about money, stress, others, does it seem too complicated, or is there something else you can specify? Another good way to begin looking at that question is to ask yourself: 'Is my life balanced?'

How Balanced Is Your Life?



Here's a simple exercise to look at that. Write down the following words, or at the least areas on the left.

Fun & Enjoyment - Happiness, Hobbies


Relationships, Spouse - Current or future Life Partner


Business & Career - Job satisfaction, Career path


Family - Children, Parents, Relatives


Social - Friends, Sport, Activities


Health & Vitality - Exercise, Diet, Wellbeing


Prosperity & Money - Savings, Investments


Personal Growth - Personal-space, Spiritual, Artistic, Self Development



1.    Grade each of the eight areas, by writing a number from 1--10. (10 being totally satisfied with that area '1' being lowest.) Do this without analyzing the areas. Write whatever number comes to your mind first. This is important.
2.    Then look at your scores. What are two lowest?
3.    Which two areas would you most like to move forward?
4.    Moving forward. How would you feel if you could significantly move forward in both?
5.    List some actions (even baby steps) you could take to start moving forward, in both areas.

Now revisit those eight areas. Are there any issues within one or more areas that are holding you back? What answer immediately comes to mind? Write that down.

Does fear play a part in any of those areas. Fear plays a huge part in most people's lives and holds them back from moving forward. Fear is often the core issue of why people say it's too late, or too difficult to Start Over.

Fear of being judged, of rejection, of embarrassment, of being alone or abandoned, of failure, of success, of intimacy, of expressing feelings, of the unknown, and fear of not being good enough, and all these can be cleared or reduced, so you can move forward positively.





This Revealing Exercise Removes Some Barriers.

One way of quickly removing some barriers that hold people back from Starting Over is this little exercise. There's 'tons of time' to do many things. 
Most people have far more of their adult life left than they realize. When you do come to that realization, right away some barriers fall away and you feel a new sense of energy and vigor.

Let's get back to reality.

The world is rapidly changing every few years. A new world presents new challenges... and new opportunities for people of every age. It makes sense if you don't want your life to be the same in 5 years' time, as it is now, it's necessary for you to adopt new strategies for your wealth, health, happiness and overall well being.





Remember, you are in this world once.
If you want to change your life and Start Over, you need to make some changes and take action! No one else will do that for you.



So,


What are you going to do ... waste that precious time? Why not DO something you've always wanted to do?


Be a star in your show... the new chapter of your life. You can get a new career, you can live life again, you certainly can Start Over.

Realistically, you probably realize you won't appear on the front cover of a fashion magazine, or be in the movies with your favorite film star, or become an astronaut, but you can become a star in your own unique show.


Your show ... the show of your life. Regardless of your age, you can make this next chapter of your life the best ever. You can do that.


**haha..pandai2lah baca.buang yang keruh, ambil yang jernih ok..ehe


Saturday, 12 May 2012

dawn of HOPE.

it happens for a reason


let's start our day with a prayer. it's the faith that counts. pray to God and hope that our life will be better than yesterday.  someone once said that

 "everyday may not be good, but there's something good in everyday"

so, think positive and smile :')



Wednesday, 9 May 2012

PROcrastinator.

bagus kalau jadi PRO (yang merefer kepada hebat) tapi jangan jadi PROcrastinator (yang merefer kepada orang yang suka bertangguh). setelah berjaya check word 'PRO' di microsoft word lalu right click and go to synonym, it refers to expert, professional, specialist etc. manakala procrastinate refers to drag your feet, hang fire etc. haha..apakah drag your feet pulak ni??
actually it refers to postpone, delay dan yang sewaktu dengannya. so apa hebatnya drag your feet or hang fire ni?not cool at all.macam orang malas.huhu

moral of the story; don't be someone who love to drag his feet or hang fire.-.-



 **check synonym kat microsoft word dapat mengurangkan masalah procrastinator dikalangan orang2 yang malas nak cari dictionary dan suka bertangguh mencari makna perkataan ^_^

STRESS laaa~


"arrrggghhhh..stresss!" -quoted from Kang Gary (Running Man)
hoho.asyik stress je la Gary tu.


i love running man :') 



if kita stress sometimes boleh hilang arah, lose our mind, heart & soul.huh.bahaya tu. benda yang simple pun sometimes boleh jadi so complicated. so please. take a deep breath, think the other way round, find ways to release ourself from stress. 

taken from selfgrowth.com (saya subscriber tegar selfgrowth.com :')

*** Article: 8 Things To Do In A Critical Moment - By Michele Jai Johnson ***

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Have you ever noticed that sometimes when you try to "fix your life", i.e. organize, maintain your cool, be nicer to others, or create things to enable your life to be all-around-better, that certain obstacles will come up which question exactly what you're trying to create?
I'm sure everyone has experienced this at one time or another - you're on a roll, your week is going great, your children are as perfect as they can be and your business or work seems to be flying high - then BOOM. Something happens to take away the excitement, the good vibrations, and everything suddenly seems bleak.

I've wondered if this is some kind of test, you know, to see how bad I really want all of this goodness I've created and achieved. I call this a "critical moment". It's the moment when the BOOM happens - the moment when you feel powerless, when only yesterday you were feeling so powerful. So what do you do?

Here is a list of 8 things you can do in these critical moments. These tasks can be used to alleviate the current emotional stress and return you to being a creator of your own good. You can do one or more of these things during a critical time...whichever feels right for you.

1) Pray
Give the emotion and the circumstance over to your God and just breathe deeply and pray.


2) Cry
Crying releases the tightness your body may be experiencing. Emotional stress to me is like a storm brewing inside. I can physically and mentally hear, see, and feel the thunder and lightning racking my inner world. Crying is the rain that comes during the storm. It's cleansing to the body and soul just as a summer rain shower cleanses the earth. I feel refreshed afterwards, just as the earth smells clean and refreshed after a shower. Do whatever you can to cry. Go in a room alone and allow it to come. Watch a sad movie - just find something to encourage the tears to come on out.


3) Laugh
Laughter releases pent-up stress and emotions as well. Laugh about how ridiculous it is that when you try to create one thing, you subconsciously create additional obstacles. Laugh at the thought of you testing yourself like this and how silly it seems to be saying affirmations and positive statements when you certainly don't feel like they even apply. Watch a humorous movie or recall a humorous memory. But laugh...it will make you feel better and return you to the state you wish to be in afterwards.


4) Talk it out
...to your spouse or trusted friend or partner. If no one is there, talk to yourself. Ask yourself questions and answer them. This helps to get whatever is going on out in the open. And talking to yourself might cause laughter, which would also be helpful.


5) Do some form of physical exercise
Exercise loosens up your insides as the adrenaline begins flowing. With each move you make during exercise, you can see you haven't lost control. This seems to help when you are feeling out of control. Because you control each sit up or leg lift or step you take, you slowly realize you are still the one in charge here .


6) Ask someone to hug you
There is something about the physical touch of someone else that helps you to realize a feeling of "support". A hug from someone lets you know you are not alone and you are supported. If you're uncomfortable asking for a hug, then GIVE ONE. You're almost sure to get one in return.


7) Breathe
Concentrate on your breath - in and out. Try to slow it down, try to speed it up. See the control you have and experience the relaxation as you do this. Imagine your breath as a movie on the VCR. You can fast-forward it or you can slow it down. Close your eyes and visualize clear breath moving through your body. Just breathe.


8) Surrender
Don't be attached to the outcome. Continue with your efforts and know that they are the right things for you to do at the moment, but surrender to any attachment to outcome. It's the attachment to outcome, the connection to things being “a certain way”, which brings us pain. Peace comes with letting go, surrendering, and acceptance. It also makes us more open to learning from our experience, instead of resisting it.


so why don't we try once?? or twice?? or whenever it is needed! i bet every each of us familiar with the list but somehow at that critical moment sometimes we tend to forget. so don't forget to Google this back  when you feel so.hehe   :')


Wednesday, 2 May 2012

NO way?


well, there's always a way. 




*** Article: 4 Ways to Say No Effectively in Any Situation Without Drama - By Stephanie
Owens ***

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The 4 No's of being a No Pro
Saying "No" can be difficult because Pleaseaholics are concerned about hurting people's feeling or damaging a relationship. I know how difficult it can be to even imagine telling someone no. Having the right tool for the job makes it easier because you don't have to think about how to phrase it just right. The 4 No's do all the work for you. These 4 No's are simple, practical solutions to gracefully decline a request of your time or resources. Each no is designed for a specific situation or type of relationship. All you have to do it pick the right "NO" and put it to use.

1. Short & Sweet No
This no is ideal for strangers or intrusive salespeople. In this case, keep it short and sweet with a smile and a simple "No" or "No thanks" response. I believe in kindness to strangers too, so be polite, but clear. If this sounds impossibly harsh, really think about what's motivating you. If you want to avoid hurting a person's feelings, it's worse to let them go through their whole pitch and then tell them no. Also, you're taking time away from people, projects and causes that are your true priorities in favor of someone you don't even know.



2. Simplify Sandwich
Use Simplify Sandwich with co-workers, acquaintances and anyone with whom you have an on-going friendly relationship. It sounds like this, "I'm sorry, I'm making an effort to simplify right now, but thanks for thinking of me." The "simplify" is sandwiched between "I'm sorry" and "Thank You" -- two of the least conflict evoking phrases in the English language. Also, everyone can relate to an intention to simplify, especially around the holidays. It's more credible than being "busy."
Practice saying the Simplify Sandwich aloud repeatedly so it rolls easily out of your mouth when it's time to use it.


i love sandwich.
subway sandwich.
italian BMT sandwich.(2 gambar di atas ^_^) but this one macam sangat menawan hati & perasaan.ehe.. 

3. The Invisible No
The Invisible No is great for children or adults who act like children. The "NO" is implied and inferred, but never stated. In fact it starts with a "yes." Therefore it's less likely to be rebuffed. Here's the formula for The Invisible No: "Yes, you can _____ as soon as you ______." For example, if your child wants to go outside and play, avoid getting into a tug of war, or caving on your no. Simply respond, "Yes, you can go outside as soon as you finish unloading the dishwasher." Continue to calmly repeat your Invisible No like a broken record. They'll get the point.

4. The Positive No
The Positive No is reserved for your most important relationships or significant requests. William Ury, world-renowned negotiator and author of A Positive No, developed it. The structure of A Positive No is actually a YES, NO, YES. The first "yes" is your core value that's driving your need to decline the request. The "no" clearly states your boundary. The last "yes" is an invitation to find a solution that's mutually agreeable to both of you.
For example, let's say your good friend asks you to be in her wedding that's being held in Hawaii. She is a very good friend, but you don't consider you to be as close as she does. You don't want to hurt her feelings, but you really can't afford to make a trip to Hawaii. The Positive No allows you to say no and still preserve the friendship. It would sound something like this"
"I'm struggling with the costs involved in going to Hawaii for your wedding. I value you and our friendship so much, and would never want to do anything to hurt you. However, I also have to think of my family's finances. I'm so sorry to say I won't be able to be in your wedding. I hope you know I stand beside you in spirit. I want to show you how much I value you and our friendship in some other way. Could I throw you a wedding shower? What else can I do to make up for the fact I can't make it to you big day?"
In this way, The Positive No honors your intention to respect the other person's feelings and avoid damaging the relationship, yet also provides a way for you to set a boundary at the same time.

 the positive No..
 to this chocolate cake???..
 & cheese tart juga?? owh No :'(
(i would say yes to chocolate cake n strawberry cheese tart! no way to say 'no'.huhu

**but why all the pics are about food?do saying "no" closely related to food? or is it 'say no' to food?or is it because i love food?owh.i love food ^^,

Tuesday, 1 May 2012

don't worry, be HAPPY :')


Think it's hard to gain happiness?feel sadness, lonely, frustrated? ahaaa...here are some tips quoted from  selfgrowth.com. very informative & sangat2 berguna untuk semua. silalah baca.enjoy! (malas nak elaborate. copy n paste je.huhu)



** Article: The 5 Part Happiness Formula - By Kimberly Englot ***
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I am a fan of happiness. I like to read about it, write about it, teach it and live it! Happiness comes easily to me but I understand that that isn't the case for everyone. I've come up with what I think is the exact formula needed.

Excitement + Freedom + Joy + Inspiration + Love = Happiness
It might look a little complicated, but it really isn't. You can start small and look for small ways to incorporate more of those states into your life.

1. Excitement
By excitement, I don't necessarily mean jumping up and down, or heart-pounding situations. It could be what comes with thinking about something you are really passionate about, or planning a party, or a trip. It could be a ride at an amusement park, or just rolling down the windows in your car. Anything that adds that shiver of fun to your life will instantly lift your mood.



2. Freedom
The ability to make your own decisions goes a long way in happiness. When you base your decisions on what other people might think or say, or when you feel obligated to do things that independence disappears, and your happiness goes right along with it. Start small, or start to appreciate the things in your life that you do have complete control over, like what kind of socks you can wear or the route you take to get to work.

comelnya budak ni!!tapi nape die fall under freedom?he..maybe sebab pic ni dia sorang2,takde mak ayah dia, sebab tu freedom** hehe

3. Joy
This is just another word for happiness, but it implies peace. Joy is an internal feeling; it comes from loving people and your environment. Joy does not depend on the things you have, but rather the way you feel about them. Add more joy to your life by creating a Gratitude Guide and writing 10 things in it every night.



4. Inspiration
Nothing like feeling inspired to act. You can't help but succeed when you follow divine inspiration! It could be trying a new recipe, or dancing to your favorite song. It could be taking a leap to change careers or move to a new city. Big or small, inspiration instantly increases your happiness when you follow it.



5. Love
The original happiness formula did not have love in it. I assumed that most people are surrounded by love, and this is true, but many do not recognize it. Love comes from within. You must love yourself fully because others can only love you to the extent that you love yourself. When you fully love yourself, you also realize that everything is love. When you're angry, it's actually love misdirected. For example, when I was working a job I hated, I used to get very upset and aggravated. I started to listen to the story I was telling myself and it went something like this, "Why should I have to work at this job? I hate this job. No one appreciates me. I'm meant to do something bigger..." I dug a little deeper and realized that instead of frustration, what I was actually feeling love. So I changed my perspective, "I love the fact that I'm angry about being stuck at this job because it means I know I deserve better." Then I made the choice to act like I loved myself, left the job and started something I'm truly passionate about.
Find ways to bring more love into your life. Smile at a stranger, practice more empathy, or cuddle your cat. Anything you can do to release love, will automatically add happiness.



apply changes immediately. Start living in the moment, appreciating what you do have and loving the life that is right in front of you. Your perspective will change and so will your happiness.




**pictures below was kegembiraan sewaktu mencuba baju2 di JJ wangsa maju bsame lily!!.huhu.windu die :')


 (tak lawanya baju nih dalam gambar.huu)

 (i agree!!)


**eh eh..ini pun ada juga. kegembiraan akim, din, ajer n dania di cherating..happy2 :') (excitement+freedom+joy+love)